The Marriage Ref Review for April 15, 2010

The Marriage Ref aired Thursday April 15th, on NBC.  The featuring guests were Tracy Morgan, Kathy Griffin, Nathan Lane. Tom Papa is, of course The Marriage Ref.

Here’s my review:

Comments on – Rosalyn and Cregg: Is it appropriate for Rosalyn to want Cregg to spend time with her by silently sitting in a room together watching her play the card game of solitaire? It should also be noted that Rosalyn has expressed frustration with her perception that Cregg utilizes his entire free time going fishing.

What Rosalyn is really doing here is expressing her frustration with her belief that she and Cregg are not spending enough time together as a couple.  She claims Cregg spends all his free time fishing. So her desire to have Cregg watches her play solitaire is really a verbal expression of her frustration that she and Cregg do not spend enough time together.

So the issue for this couple is not really solitare or fishing. The real issue is Rosalyn’s desire for the couple to spend more time together as a couple – a valid concern – but one that is inappropriately expressed.  She needs to say what she means and mean what she says.  Address the real issue of feeling neglected – not the smoke and mirror issue of playing solitaire or going fishing!

The Marriage Ref’s call for this couple is a split decision – and I agree with it:  Cregg does not have to watch Rosalyn play solitaire and Rosalyn does not have to go fishing with Cregg.  However, this couple better find a way to spend some quality time together or they are headed for splitsville!

Comments on Theresa and John: Should Theresa spend her time “ghost hunting”?

Let me begin this discussion by stating I do not know much about paranormal activity; however, I know enough to know there are a lot of things going on in the universe that hard-line science cannot explain.  In other words, I do not disbelieve in paranormal activity or ghosts – nor do I strongly believe in them. Suffice it to say I am open to the concept of paranormal activity.

I disagree with The Marriage Ref’s call that favored John.  As a relationship expert, I believe the issue for this couple is to respect each other’s activities  – regardless of whether John believes in Theresa’s paranormal activities or not. It is Theresa’s decision to decide what areas of interest and/or study she would like to pursue; it is not a decision John should be making for her; nor is it appropriate for John to be judging his wife for the activity she has chosen to pursue.  Couples need to be supportive of each other – not critical or judgmental!

Don’t forget to check out next week’s comments as Dr. Patty Ann – “The Relationship Expert” makes her “Call” on the Marriage Ref’s Call!

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