Most of us take some kind of inventory during the month of March. And when we do, we are usually pretty surprised to see how much unnecessary stuff we have accumulated over the winter. If we stop and take inventory of our relationship, we might discover how much old and unnecessary emotional baggage we have been holding onto their too.
Sometimes our relationships are a little bit like our closets, the more closet space you have – the more stuff you store; the longer you are in your relationship – the more grudges and bad feelings you hold onto.
Spring is the perfect time to take inventory of your relationship and throw away all the crap that clutters it. Once you let go of the old stuff – you will be amazed to see how much room you make in your heart for more love and happiness.
Below is some advice to help you throw out the old stuff that has slowly but surely crept into your relationship and make room for all the new and exciting experiences and feelings that are sure to await you!
1. Let go of the emotional junk and throw it out!
That’s right – let go of the hurt and resentment you might be carrying around towards your partner over silly little things that don’t add up to a hill of beans. Holding a grudge about former slights and/or hurts will only hold you back and weigh you down on your journey throughout life. So what if they were 15 minutes late for an appointment? In the final analysis, does it really matter? Come on, if you want to increase positive feelings in your relationship you have to let go of the negative ones. They don’t serve you – or your relationship – well. So avoid all this negativity like the plaque.
2. Commit to making your relationship your #1 priority.
No more excuses. Everything else should take a back seat to the most important element of your life – and that is your relationship. There is a reason no one has ever said at the end of their life: “I wish I spent more time in the office”. Got it? Make time for your relationship – no excuses – Just Do It!
3. Shift your mindset into Positive Gear!
Many times it is our mindset that is the real culprit that prevents us from having the relationship we want and deserve. Without even realizing it we find ourselves focusing on the negative aspects of our relationship (see #1) – and the less than perfect qualities of our partner. Doing this may completely blind us to all the benefits of our loving relationship and the many wonderful attributes and qualities of our partner.
There is a reason you are with your partner to begin with, remember? If your mindset is set in the negative mood – then the negative is all you will see. Shift your mindset into a positive gear – and you will be shocked to see how much this shift changes what you think, feel and believe about your partner and your relationship – in positive ways that are way too many to enumerate here. Don’t take my word for it. Try it and you will see that it’s true.
Since we all sow what we reap – sow your relationship this spring with a conscious attempt to let go of any negativity that may have crept into your relationship throughout these past few winter months. And give up on the grudge holding – it is just a total waste of time and energy and anyway – why would you want to hold onto that kind of negative energy in the first place? Let it go.
Use Nike’s motto and Just do it. Prioritize you relationship – no excuses allowed. (BTW – isn’t it interesting that Nike is the Greek word for Victory?) Finally, and perhaps most importantly, shift your mindset from the negative to the positive.
If you follow these 3 simple steps this month, your relationship will spring forward and blossom in love and romance – for a new and improved relationship!
Rekindle Romance and Happiness in Your Relationship,
Dr. Patty Ann