Wouldn’t it be great if you could spring clean your relationship the way you spring clean your home? Well the good news is – you can!
Hanging onto negativity and emotional garbage in our marriage leaves very little room for positive feelings and emotions. As spring brings forth new beginnings, now is as good a time as any to get rid of the negative emotions and past grudges that weighed you and your relationship down – so you can bring forth healthy feelings and emotions.
Following are 4 easy tips for cleaning out the toxicity in your relationship so you can let the love shine through!
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Take personal responsibility. We all have a choice. We can choose to blame our partner for everything we don’t like about our relationship or we can take a long hard look in the mirror and accept personal responsibility for what is going wrong in our relationship. The good news about taking personal responsibility for the difficulties in our relationship is that you can change it – because the only person you can truly change is yourself. Yes, you can change how you react to someone else, but you really can’t change them (only they can do that!)
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Take Inventory & Review Your Priorities. Where do you focus most of your time and energy? Does your work, your kids, or your friends get the best of you – leaving very little of anything (energy, time or love) left for your marriage? If so, re-arrange your priorities and put your marriage where it belongs – in the number one spot. Individuals show what is important to them based upon where – and with whom – they spend their time. Don’t wait until the kids are grown or your career takes off to prioritize your marriage – it might not be there!
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Let it Go – Throw it Out! If you are having the same old argument over and over again, about something silly and inconsequential, respectfully agree to disagree and let it go. Every couple has issues that are unresolvable (don’t let any other relationship expert tell you differently). Engaging in these arguments – knowing you will never see eye to eye on them, will only drive a wedge between you and your spouse. Since it will serve absolutely no good purpose – let it go!
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Spice up your relationship, including your sex life, by adding a little variety (the spice of life). This is a great way to re-energize your ho humdrum – or non-existent sex life. Let’s be honest, it is easy to fall into a sexual rut – making the sexual act feel pretty boring. Get rid of the old ways of having sex and spice it up – there is so much information out there that you can look up on the internet if you don’t know what to do. So no excuses – just do it!
Taking personal responsibility, prioritizing your relationship, throwing out anything that is toxic or that doesn’t add value, while spicing up your sex life, is a great way to spring clean your relationship – and watch the love grow!
Rekindle Romance and Happiness in Your Relationship,
Dr. Patty Ann
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