Talk to anyone who has been married (or in a committed relationship) and they will tell you – if they are being honest – that once the honeymoon is over – the honeymoon is really over! Yes, the joy and happiness that comes with sharing your life with someone is wonderful, but make no mistake about it, it requires hard work and effort. And even the most loving relationships have their moments when spouses many times ask themselves: “is keeping this relationship together really worth it?” The answer to this question is a resounding YES, however, it requires some effort.
Below are the 3 mistakes you must not make to keep you and your spouse living happily ever after!
- Refusing to “Let it Go!” Do not hold on to negativity! We all make mistakes in our relationships – and hurt the one we love. The biggest mistake is to hold onto these hurts and keep replaying them in our minds over and over again. Obsessing over these situations (which many times are mere slights) only creates more negativity. It does not serve you as an individual and your relationship, as a couple, well! Therefore, as the Disney movie said: “Let it Go!” and move on!
- Refusing to Accept Responsibility. Many of us refuse to accept our role in the difficulties we may be experiencing in our marriage/relationships. Over the years I have seen partners spend countless hours telling me everything their spouse has done wrong – and refusing to accept any blame themselves for the issues they are facing in their relationship. Seriously? Can everything be your spouses’ fault? Nobody is perfect; and remember there is no such thing as a one-handed clap!!
- Refusing to Forgive! An extension of mistake #1 – refusing to “let it go!” usually ends up with a refusal to forgive. Since you and your partner are both human – you will both make mistakes and wrong each other. Assuming these mistakes do not render harm to your body and emotional well-being, if your spouse is genuinely sorry for the pain and hurt they caused you, it is imperative you forgive them. If you are finding it difficult to do this, it might be helpful to remember that there will come a time in your marriage when you will need forgiving – so what goes around comes around.
If you are willing to let go of the hurt that inevitably results in sharing your life with someone, accept responsibility when you and your partner are in a difficult place in your marriage and be willing to forgive their slights and imperfections – you will be well on your way to fortifying your marriage/relationship from the devastation of infidelity!
Rekindle Romance and Happiness in Your Relationship,
Dr. Patty Ann
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