Falling in love requires us to become emotionally vulnerable to our partner when we open our hearts and souls to them. It is this very vulnerability that creates intimacy; an intimacy predicated upon trust. In marriage, (or any long-term committed relationship) nothing violates this trust more than infidelity.
Following are three simple (and I do mean simple) things you must do so you can stay emotionally connected to your spouse while growing individually as a person.
3 Do’s to Avoid Infidelity
Maintain your friendships. Do not allow your world to shrink down to your relationship between yourself and your spouse. No one person can be all things to any one person – and it is a huge mistake to even try. Therefore, keep your friendship with other people outside your marriage strong.
Explore new activities and create new friendships together. Meet your partner’s friends and have him/her meet yours. Engage in new activities together and learn new hobbies together. This keeps your marriage from falling into a rut and feeling stale. It also prevents boredom – a key reason many people often state when asked why they cheated.
Maintain your individuality. Do not give up all aspects of who you were before your marriage. Molding yourself into the person you think your partner wants you to become ignores the fact that your partner fell in love with who you were before you married. Over time, losing your individuality will make you boring; and you run the risk of losing your own identity.
Following these 3 steps will help avoid the devastating pain of infidelity. In my next newsletter I will share with you 3 things you should NOT do to avoid infidelity!
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