Many people use spring as the season to plant new flowers and do a little spring-cleaning. Now is a good time to do the same in your relationship. Just as holding onto old clothes takes up precious space in your closets and prevents the addition of bright new clothes into your wardrobe; hanging onto emotional baggage and negativity fills our relationship with a heaviness that doesn’t allow for positive feelings and interactions. As spring brings forth new beginnings, now is as good a time as any to get rid of the negative emotions and past grudges that weigh you down – so you can create room for love to grow!
Below are 4 easy tips for cleaning out the toxicity in your relationship.
- All relationships begin with our relationship to ourselves and the mindset we create. If you have a negative mindset, you are carrying around a lot of negative talk about yourself. You must let go of this negativity and replace it with positive thoughts. Viewing your life through a positive mindset will help you create positive relationships; this is true for your intimate relationships as well as for your non-intimate ones.
- Spice up your relationship, including your sex life, by adding a little variety into what you do as a couple. It is so easy to fall into a rut – creating boredom and a lack of excitement. Get rid of the old habits so you can create space for new activities in your relationship.
- Review your priorities. Take an inventory of what you choose to spend your time on, as both an individual and a couple, and make sure you are spending enough time together doing things you both enjoy.
- If you are having the same old argument over and over again, and it involves a trivial manner, respectfully agree to disagree and then let it go. Holding onto these arguments that you know will only drive a wedge between you and your spouse, creating ill will along the way, serves absolutely no purpose. So just let it go!
Taking inventory of your relationship and throwing out anything that is toxic and/or doesn’t add value to it – is a great way to enter spring with your partner – and watch the love spring forth!
Rekindle Romance and Happiness in Your Relationship,
Dr. Patty Ann