Birthdays are a time for the celebration of life! Our birth is the celebration of the love our parents once shared with each other (regardless of how it played out). So for me, birthdays are all about giving; so my gift for you this week is a gift that is sure to keep on giving.
Today, I would like to give you the gift of gratitude. Gratitude is the ability to be grateful for all that we have in our lives. I am incredibly grateful to all the people with whom I share my life: my family, my friends and my loyal readers who know they can look to this newsletter for effective ways to increase the love and beauty of their romantic relationship.
Albert Einstein once said: “There are only two ways to live your life, one is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as if everything is.” This life philosophy is based upon an attitude of gratitude. Be grateful for everything in your life and consider everything and everyone around you to be a miracle.
To be grateful in your relationship is to look at your relationship through a lens of abundance and appreciation. Focus on all the positives in your relationship – not the negatives. Be grateful for what you have instead of focusing on and being resentful for what you don’t have – or what you think you should have more of.
When you look at your relationship and your life through the eyes of gratitude – your world becomes a place of joy and happiness. Gratitude is a mindset that allows us to see the good in our partner and our life.
Here is my secret strategy for bringing gratitude into your relationship. Think about one nice thing that your partner said or did for you today – and be thankful for it. Be aware of how you feel as you think about this. Doesn’t it make you feel warm and loved? Let that feeling stay with you for a few moments and then go on with your day. Gratitude is also easily expressed by a thank-you or a hug; these are simple little acts that bring the giver so much love and appreciation in return for these easy gestures.
Feeling grateful makes us feel good about ourselves and our relationships. Gratitude puts positive feelings into our relationship and allows it to expand from a place of love and abundance. Gratitude increases the bond we have with our partner and helps us resolve conflict in a healthy constructive manner.
Gratitude puts us in a place where we truly want to give back to the world for all that we have. When we are faced with conflicts in our relationship, if we approach these conflicts from a place of gratitude, we will feel less inclined to escalate these differences because we are not feeling the need to “win at all costs”.
The mindset and expression of gratitude in your day to day life helps solidify all your relationship and acts as glue for maintaining intimacy in your romantic relationship. When we show gratitude to our partner, we are letting them know we appreciate the love and intimacy they have brought into our lives.
Be grateful for all the love you have in your life. And my gift to you on my birthday is to give you my gratitude for our relationship. It is my hope you will give and show gratitude to the people you love in your life- and you will watch it spread like wild fire because gratitude is contagious.
Remember, gratitude is the gift that keeps on giving; I’ve given it to you as my birthday gift with the sincere hope that you will give it away to the ones you love! And you will see how much more you will get back in return!
Rekindle Romance and Happiness in Your Relationship,
Dr. Patty Ann