One of my favorite holidays is just around the corner – Thanksgiving Day, and it begins the official Holiday season. Today Americans give thanks and celebrate the fact that we live in the greatest country in the world – a country that provides unprecedented freedoms, abundance and liberties to all! Thanksgiving Day allows us the opportunity to pause and express our gratitude, love and thanks for all this great country has to offer – and for each other. In addition, I believe there is absolutely no greater country in the world to live as a woman than the United States of America – and for this, too, I am extremely thankful.
In keeping with the tradition of giving thanks on this Thanksgiving Day, I would like to share with my readers some reflections on all I am thankful for on this very traditional American holiday.
I am thankful for all the wonderful people with whom I share my life: my family, my friends and the ever growing, inspiring followers of this relationship advice newsletter. I am thankful for the privilege of having all of you be a part of my life.
Albert Einstein once said: “There are only two ways to live your life, one is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as if everything is.” Arguably the greatest genius of the previous century, Einstein expressed so eloquently in this statement a life philosophy predicated upon gratitude and thankfulness. Be thankful for everything in your life and consider everything and everyone around you to be a miracle; for in fact, our very existence embodies the miracle of life. Be thankful for it.
We should all do our best to express gratitude and thanks for what we have in our lives instead of worrying about and being resentful for what we don’t have (or for what you think you should have more of). This includes focusing on all the wonderful qualities and positive aspects of our relationships while minimizing the negatives.
When we view our relationships and our life through the eyes of gratitude and thankfulness, our inner world becomes a place of peace, joy, happiness and tranquility that radiates out from our very core and influences our external reality. Gratitude and thankfulness provides a mindset that allows us to see the good in the people who make up our lives and this vision extends to the world at large. Feeling thankful for all we have in our lives makes us feel good about our relationships and ourselves. Thankfulness increases the bond we have with each other, on an individual level and within our community at large.
Thankfulness puts us in a place where we truly want to give back to the world for all that we have; it injects positive feelings into our relationships and allows them to expand from a place of love and abundance.
The presence of thankfulness within our hearts allows us to look at conflict in our relationships from a healthy perspective. Therefore, when we are faced with these conflicts, we feel less inclined to escalate them because we are coming from a place of abundance. We do not have the energy, the desire nor the will to view conflict from a “winner takes all” sum game.
The mindset and expression of thankfulness and gratitude in your day to day life helps solidify all your relationships and acts as the glue for maintaining love and intimacy in your romantic relationships. When we show thanks and gratitude to our partner, we let them know we appreciate the love and intimacy they bring into our lives. So be thankful for all the love you have in your life.
As the hustle and bustle of this holiday season begins today, remember to express your thanks and gratitude to the people who make up the relationships with whom you share your life!
Happy Thanksgiving and here’s to a Fabulous Holiday Season!
Rekindle Romance and Happiness in Your Relationship,
Dr. Patty Ann