Wow – it is almost the 4 th of July and that means summer is in full gear. School’s out – no more paper, no more books, no more teachers’ dirty looks. So many times we neglect our marriage and blame it on the school year. Now that the school year has ended – you can no longer blame the fact that you spend NO TIME with your husband/partner on the fact that you are driving the kids all around town – from one extra-curricular activity to the next. Or that you are doing homework or volunteering at school or … let’s be honest ladies – the list is endless. So now that the frantic pace of the school year is behind us, at least for a while, I want to share 3 Simple Ways to bring fireworks back into your relationship and create some fun with your partner during the summer months ahead!
- Prioritize your relationship – Grab your calendar right now and put time alone with your spouse on it – at least once a week. If you don’t schedule couple time with your partner – it is amazing to see how quickly the summer months will fly by and you still will not have found time to re-connect with your spouse. No more excuses – date night – or day – or morning – goes on the calendar NOW. Treat these dates as if they are etched in stone and do not allow anyone or anything to interfere with these moments.
- Communicate – when you finally get alone time with your partner, I want you to follow a few simple rules. You can communicate about anything EXCEPT the kids, your jobs and problems with the house (apartment). See – simple, easy rules – nothing complicated. Believe it or not, there was a time when you didn’t have kids and jobs and homes that consumed you – so put them on the backburner and talk about what you talked about way back when. Time alone is meant to have some fun together and re-establish intimacy. Sure, all couples need to find time to problem-solving – but date time is not one of them.
- Relate to your partner as your Spouse – Use the summer months to reconnect with your spouse so you can relate to them as your intimate partner. It is so easy to allow all our other roles such as parent, provider, volunteer, etc to take precedence over our role as spouse that before we know it, we no longer relate to each other as intimate partners.
Ladies, No More Excuses. Make time in the summer for some adult fun too (use your imagination on that statement).
Rekindle Romance and Happiness in Your Relationship,