Keeping Your Relationship Alive

While shopping in the grocery store the other day I heard 2 women talking about how dull and boring their relationships have become. One woman was saying how every Friday night she and her partner go to the movies and eat dinner out at the same Italian Restaurant. Her friend was describing how every Saturday night for the past 5 years she and her partner go out to dinner at the same restaurant with the same couple. Yawn! It was clear to me that these relationships were in a huge rut and you could clearly see the boredom on the face of these 2 women. So how do you keep your relationship alive and out of this type of rut?

Variety is the spice of life and it will keep your relationship alive! Change your routine, do things differently.

If you usually go out to dinner on the weekends, try going out to dinner in the middle of the week. You will find this mid-week night out to be a welcome break from the stresses and doldrums of the work week. Go to new restaurants. Explore new activities together. Shake up your routine.

If you and your partner usually take long walks together, you might consider renting a bike and going for a bike ride instead. When driving to a familiar destination, allow for some extra time and take the scenic back roads instead of the usual quick highway and enjoy the scenery together.

You might really love chocolate but if you eat it every single day, day in and day out, chocolate will eventually lose its allure. The same is true of our relationship. In order to keep your relationship alive you must try new routines to avoid getting stuck in a rut of the same old thing over and over again. Tweaking and changing the routines of your relationship will make everything old new again.

When you think about how you are going to spend your leisurely time with your partner, remember variety is the spice of life. Trying new routines and activities will keep the health and intimacy of your relationship alive and kicking.

Rekindle Romance and Happiness in Your Relationship,

Dr. Patty Ann
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12 thoughts on “Keeping Your Relationship Alive

  1. Jenny Fenig says:

    Great insight, Dr. Patty Ann! My husband and I are celebrating our 5 year wedding anniversary by attending a couples retreat at Kripalu this weekend … talk about spicing it up. I’m a firm believer in these types of bonding experiences and adventures to keep the spark alive.


  2. Dr. Patty Ann says:

    Hi Jenny,

    Thanks for the comment and congratulations on your 5th wedding anniversary! Have a great retreat! Will see you on our call soon!

    Dr/ Patty Ann

  3. Heidi Alexandra Pollard says:

    Hi Dr Patty Ann
    Such simple yet profound things to do in keeping ourselves out of a rut (aka coffin with the ends kicked out).
    I wonder if this can also apply for individuals not in a relationship or even families as a group. One of the wonderful things about doing things differently, driving another way is that it opens us up to new possibilities and fires up our neurons to make new connections – so vital to stay motivated and alive.
    Thanks for sharing
    Heidi Alexandra
    The Living Leaders Advocate

  4. Lisa Manyon says:

    Dr. Patty Ann,

    Great advice to shake things up. Variety is the spice of life and live should be lived like the adventure it is.

    Write on!~


  5. Carmen@GetOrganized says:

    Hmmm…I love the chocolate analogy! This post reminds me of the recent SATC2 movie, in which Carrie and Big get into a rut. It happens to the best of us, but your tips are simple and easy to move one though to more exciting times! – Carmen

  6. Dr. Patty Ann says:

    Hi Carmen,

    Thanks fror your comment! It took me about a week to figure out your acronym ( you former military folks just love your acronyms – LOL ooops!). Hey dont i look a little bit like Carrie???

    Dr. Patty Ann

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